I think the factor we consistently overlook in the tensions and challenges of enjoying life is taking our private life seriously. In other words, instead of putting on a show for others, cultivate your inner life for yourself. Regardless of how others judge you, structure and shape your moments, which you understand best, according to your own desires and self-respect. For example:

1. Wear comfortable and nice clothes at home.
2. Take breaks during tough tasks.
3. Stand by an open window and enjoy your coffee while breathing fresh air, without sharing a photo anywhere.
4. Take a shower every day and wear perfume, even if you’re not going out.
5. Keep your hair styled as if you have an evening date with the minister’s daughter, even if you don’t.
6. Leave your phone at home and go for a walk.
7. Leave your phone at home and go read in the park.
8. Leave your phone at home and have coffee at a café.
9. Leave your phone at home and stand in the busiest part of the city to watch people.
10. Listen to music with lyrics from parents’ generation and try to understand and enjoy it.
11. Even if loneliness is overwhelming, don’t socialize with people who drain you. Value your time, even if it’s spent lying down staring at the ceiling.
12. Forgive yourself for your mistakes and realize you weren’t the only one who did foolish things at fifteen.
13. Forgive your family for anything they may have fallen short on. When you become like them, you’ll understand they did their best.
14. Value both your good and bad traits, and stop changing yourself to please people who don’t even matter.
15. Stop suppressing your emotions. Allow yourself to get angry. Shout at anyone who wrongs you, and if necessary, confront them fully.
16. Accept that you are not the spiritual parent of the world, and it’s okay to make all sorts of mistakes.
17. Do something you’ve forbidden yourself from until now and go so far that you mess it up completely.
18. Do another thing you’ve forbidden yourself from and overdo it.
19. Do yet another forbidden thing and overdo it.
20. Do anything else you’ve forbidden yourself and go overboard.
21. Call your ex who left you for someone else and say whatever comes to mind. Try to invent new combinations of insults she’ll remember for life.
22. Wear shorts and take out the trash to the street. Let whatever passes through your neighbors’ rotten minds go freely.
23. If there’s still someone who values you, value them and show them they matter. Invite them for a drink or dinner.
24. If no one values you, start finding new friends. Loneliness is the beginning of depression.
25. Let go, move on, and succeed.