1. If you want to be famous, don't try to be famous.
Why: Because everyone can tell when you're trying, and they'll push back.
So what should I do: Instead, create value, make something or do something, so that fame becomes a side effect.

2. If you want to be rich, don't try to be rich.
Why: Money is a byproduct of transferring value; it can't be the goal by itself. You can't just save or grind day and night to become wealthy.
So what should I do: Make something useful. Offer a helpful service. Transfer value so that it comes back to you as money.

3. If you want to reach your love, don't try to reach your love.
Why: Put yourself in the place of the beloved. Who's more valuable to you: someone who’s constantly around 24/7, or someone you struggle to be with for a few hours?
So what should I do: Build yourself. Develop your character. Fill your gaps. Be a valuable person. Your love will naturally return.

4. If you want to quit smoking, don't try to quit smoking.
Why: Quitting can't happen if you look at it as "something I used to do and wish I still did."

So what should I do: Think about the days before you started smoking. How did you spend your time? What did you do after lunch? What do non-smokers do when they feel the urge to smoke?

5. If you want to write a blog, don't try to write a blog.
Why: Blogging isn’t just buying a host, getting a domain, installing WordPress, and staring at a blank screen. Blogging is about sharing your thoughts, ideas, and what you know.
So what should I do: Read books. Keep reading. Then write about the changes in your perspective. What you had for lunch isn't important, but why you had it is. When writing, think about your audience, not your competitors.

In short, don't chase enlightenment.

PS: This post isn’t a cure-all for every human problem. But this one comes close.