Want to avoid embarrassment? blend in with the crowd? this proverb carries several assumptions: first assumption: by default, you are embarrassing. second assumption: being embarrassed is undesirable. third assumption: blending in protects you from embarrassment. but this proverb has some m... Read All

leaving a tarzan-like life and achieving proper grooming and attire boosting self-confidence (at least someone, even a completely clueless person, values you) access to emotional support during tough days sharing in moments of joy opportunities to join groups with couples as members kee... Read All

before migrating, work and live in iran. migration itself is hard. don’t let the challenges of living alone for the first time add to the difficulties of migration. learn and master the language(s) of your destination country, especially their street-level slang. learn as much as possible, ev... Read All

use eager loading to reduce unnecessary queries with with(). leverage query scopes to keep your models clean and reusable. use firstorcreate() to simplify conditional record creation. use updateorcreate() to efficiently update or insert records. take advantage of pluck() to get single col... Read All

A few days ago i returned to istanbul, and after some rest and recuperation, i finally started working at my new job. during the time i was job hunting, my main goal was to choose the best and most stable option possible, while avoiding repetition of past misfortunes. everything at the new company s... Read All

I’ve lost count of how many times i’ve had issues with my workplace, but here’s the short and tense version: i lost my job again, and once more i applied for other positions. this time, however, i was very selective, i rejected almost all of the 10-15 interviews i attended, determined that this woul... Read All

A) my roommate, after much whining about having brought all their savings from iran, refuses to contribute to living expenses. they decide to leave and use the remaining money (which they claimed was their only life savings) to buy clothes and return to iran. i decide to be more careful from now on.... Read All

if you have access to your parents, go kiss their hands and feet right now, then continue reading this post. life is exactly as it is. no magical event or miracle will happen unless through your own optimal, real, and correct effort (not to be confused with overwork). your bed is the most imp... Read All

Loneliness is a strange phenomenon. you can suppress its cries for a long time, but like a weed breaking through asphalt and waving at you from the middle of the road, it occasionally appears and reminds you that no matter how much you struggle or blend in with others, you are still alone. just a mo... Read All

Ear blockage after a change in air pressure is normal and something most of us have experienced to some extent. my recent experience, however, left me grounded with pain for a couple of hours, so i decided to share the methods i tried here. hopefully, someone else facing this issue can resolve it qu... Read All

Finally, after four months of waiting and a terrifying experience of losing everything (except my persistence) in ankara, i managed to make another trip to iran. to cover two days of leave, i had to work through all holidays of the previous two weeks, arriving in tabriz completely exhausted, both ph... Read All

A few days ago, i was sitting in a café near my workplace, planning a trip a few days ahead, when a persian song playing caught my attention. hearing such a song in iranian cafés is normal, but here it was impossible to imagine that someone randomly added it to the playlist at that hour. following t... Read All